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Hey, SA Lurkers (and Aran)

Between E/N and the thread reposting pictures of goons, a lot of you are a bunch of sad sacks. The worst thing is, it would be so easy to turn your lives around if only you didn't get constant validation from other broken individuals telling you you're good enough. Well, you're not. If you're not fit, hard-working and have a vibrant offline social life, you're not having it good enough. The mere fact I needed to add the "offline" specification tells a lot about how sad the average goon is. The worst thing is that 90% of your problems are self-created and so easily solvable if you only bothered.

So in here, SS will give you some real talk and we'll tell you how to unfuck and ungoon your life or, as most people call it, how to grow up.

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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #1 on: January 09, 2014, 12:40:00 PM »
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Problem: Being a goon, fat, lonely, depressed, anxious, unmotivated, unemployed amongst a long list of disorders.
Solution: Cis Scum's 5 Step Plan To Growing the Fuck Up


At a New Year's Eve party, I ended up spending a considerable amount of time drinking with this mid-20s guy, who complained all of his problems. Most of them were self-inflicted, easily solvable and the product of not growing up. A lot of his problems were similar to a lot of E/N and general threads about fatherhood/depression/relationships/etc.... I told him he needed to grow the fuck up and, once he does, his life will stop to suck so much. 90% of the problems you all suffer from could be solved by making just day to day changes. No more “soda addictions” and getting panic attacks reading twitter or lonely friday nights.

The solution is right in your face: You need to grow the fuck up and start acting like an adult. If you look back even a few decades ago, by the time you were in your early 20s you were expected to be married, have a career, probably a couple of children and work toward owning your own house at the minimum. The truth is that there is no reason for you not to be behaving like an adult even if most of the people around you suffer from arrested development and still act like teenagers well into their 20s. It's not an improvement that society tolerates this, it's a sign of shitty parenting from an entire generation who were themselves raised by people who had no idea what to do.

Here's what I told him to do in a convenient 5 step guide to making this the year when you finally grew the fuck up and stopped being such a depressed sad sack:

1. Establish a morning routine.

Humanity craves rituals and repetition, this is hard-wired in us. This is also an extremely important tool when working on yourself. Repeat something long enough, it becomes second nature. Keep that going on long enough, and it just becomes an integral part of you. That's the key to bettering yourself, forcing yourself to go through the motions at first until it becomes automatic and eventually part of your personality.

If you're over the age of 21, you need to act like it and the key to it is to begin as soon as you wake up in the morning. There are a lot of advantages to a productive morning routine: puts you in the right mindset, maximizes your time, makes you more presentable and prevents accidents from not being thoroughly prepared.. It sets up you're day perfectly and gives you great motivation and there are so many studies that show how great an impact it has on those who adhere to one strictly. Having a lazy Sunday should be an occasional thing, not an every morning experience. Being in university is no exception. Every morning routine should be strictly adhered to and include:

20 minutes of working out
Grooming yourself
Dressing properly

You should not just be sitting around, drinking coffee and reading bullshit on your computer until you go 'oh shit I have to leave' and then rush through everything. You should follow up it like it's the fucking army. Wake up, start coffee, use bathroom, get changed and start working out within 20 minutes of waking up. Within an hour you should have showered and be dressed as well. Being an adult means being productive, and if you learn to actually use your time properly in the morning it's going to affect the rest of your day as well.

2. Take care of yourself

The human body is also a finely-tuned machine, and the way you treat it will impact everything in your life. The key to positive mental health is through a healthy body. Being fat is not a good thing, and neither is being a slob. You might not have been graced with the best genetics but you will always feel better about yourself and the world will treat you differently if you put some effort in your presentation.

Physical activity also releases hormones in your body that will help balance your mood, feel relaxed and positive. Being in shape (versus being thin but out of shape) will do wonders for your self-esteem. Not only should you take care of your body but presentation as well. There is no excuse to dress like a slob, even on the weekend. You should make an effort to make sure you always get dressed in the morning, forget about lounging around in boxers on days off.

If you work at a gaming company you shouldn't necessarily show up wearing a three piece suit, but for fuck's sake don't show up wearing jorts and sandals. You're an adult, a "relaxed' dress code doesn't mean you should dress like a fat teenager at science camp.  You're probably unable to buy clothes that fit you well on your own but go to some clothing stores (for adults) and get experienced staff to give you a hand. You should be able to find people who are not fucks and want to help you rather than get a commission.


3. Establish sport/physical activities during the week

Yes, separate from the morning workout. Morning workouts are great to make sure you're constantly active every day and making small and consistent gains, but the main workout should be separate physical activities/a sport that take 2-3 hours a week at the very least. Can be lifting, rock climbing, jogging, football; doesn't matter as long as it's physical, frequent and you enjoy it. Sticking with a physical activity where you see concrete results over time, both physical and in terms of the activity itself does tremendous for both physical and mental health.


4. Pick up a new hobby (and stop playing so much video games)

Taking care of yourself when you wake up helps boost self-confidence. So does becoming physically fitter and dressing better. Hobbies (outside of video games and computers) will do the same when they lead to concrete results. The problem with video games is that while it gives you instant gratification since the ratio of effort versus result is pretty low, but it does not give you anything concrete. Whenever someone from SA links to a steam account, you guys generally have an average of 20 hours+ a week of video games. Over a decade, that's more than 10,000 hours. If you had spent that time playing violin (or any other instrument), to paint or any other skill, you would be close to an expert at that point. We're talking about being able to pretty much play anything alongside the best in the world, etc...

What's left after 10,000 hours of video games? Nothing. Some steam cred I guess. It might have been fun, but you've gained zero. It's the human equivalent of that scientific experiment where a lizard is given a choice of food or a button that delivers an electric shock that lights up its pleasure center in the brain. Inevitably, the lizard will choose the fake pleasure over what is necessary for him to function, until he starves to death.

If you spent even half of the time you play video games and started a few hobbies over a decade, you could have ended up being able to:

speak fluent [language]
play [instrument]
know how to [skill]
be a decent player at [sport]

on top of still playing thousands of hours of video games. Wouldn't it be better for you in 10 years to look back at the past decade and have gotten good at someone else than mashing the same buttons and never accomplishing anything? Concrete hobbies will actually give you tremendous benefits in life. Sitting around mashing at buttons is not going to ever matter or help you except kill some time until you die.


5. Keep a schedule and possibly journals

If you're not used to do everything that needs to be done immediately and tend to push off everything, you're going to struggle following a morning if it's not written down. So write down your morning schedule, print it out and make sure everything morning you go through each and every step. Keep it up on a wall or something until you know it back and forth and you've been doing it consistently for months. Shit, if you need to fire up excel, make a chart and tick a box every time you do it in the morning to keep track of everything on a daily and weekly basis etc... It can be pretty motivating and will give you extra motivation not to give up one morning.

If you're fat, you'll be losing weight from the physical activities and morning workouts, but you should still keep a food journal to know exactly just how much you're eating and try to make sure you're eating the right amount of the right things. There are plenty of online places where you can do that and they'll give you precise breakdowns based on age, sex etc...

If you want to go the extra way, keep a small journal with you and every day write down things you want to better off, things you could have done better, things you're happy you're doing so you keep a record of that thing.


That's the thing about growing up and bettering yourself: if you don't work hard at it, you don't keep track of where you are and where you want to go, you won't really get anywhere you want. Stop being affected by life happening around you, sack up and start living life to its fullest instead. In a matter of a year or two you won't even recognize the sad lonely sack you once were. That's my guaranteed to work plan.

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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #2 on: January 09, 2014, 12:50:10 PM »
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"I got about a paragraph in and determined that this was nothing but "LOL BOOTSTRAPS" right wing propaganda so I stopped reading."
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #3 on: January 09, 2014, 12:58:58 PM »
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All of my problems are because the rich are forcibly keeping me down and I have been socialized to act this way.  Also, HOW DARE YOU SUGGEST MY 500 lb ASS IS BECAUSE I AM LAZY, IT'S GENETIC.  :madgoon:
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #4 on: January 09, 2014, 01:03:57 PM »
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 :jesse: Why bother bettering yourself when you can just vote in politicians who will support your current lifestyle by taking from those who actually work?

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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #5 on: January 09, 2014, 01:07:38 PM »
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Good writeup Cis.

Another important life skill is learning to roll with the punches, not in an internet way.
Accepting that there  will be authority that will tell you what to do on occasion and you have no option but to comply or face a bad time is required to function in any workplace, and society at large.

All these people who go on about past "abuses" and being full of anxiety need to realize theyre the only one hung up on it. The alleged bully or abuser has probably totally forgotten about whatever minor trangression the victim has held on to. It only lives inside the head of the permanent victim. They have the power to let it go.


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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #6 on: January 09, 2014, 01:16:30 PM »
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I'd add "Stop drinking pop/soda". I was huge soda 'addict' (that term  :facepalm:) where I probably drank a case a week, maybe more and it was was starting to show. In basic training we only were allowed to drink water, milk, juice and powerade, and it really broke me of the habit of having a can or two with every meal. Now I let myself have pop once or twice a week, and usually only if eating out. The only pop I keep on hand is usually left over for parties. That's 200 calories a can you've just removed from your diet with minimal effort.
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #7 on: January 09, 2014, 01:20:31 PM »
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #8 on: January 09, 2014, 01:30:14 PM »
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you don't have to give up vidya or wanking to japanese cartoons, just include them as part of a balanced breakfast

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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #9 on: January 09, 2014, 01:30:33 PM »
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #10 on: January 09, 2014, 01:31:12 PM »
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Look at all that shit you typed that I didn't read

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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #11 on: January 09, 2014, 02:17:33 PM »
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Look at all that shit you typed that I didn't read
"I got about a paragraph in and determined that this was nothing but "LOL BOOTSTRAPS" right wing propaganda so I stopped reading."
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #12 on: January 09, 2014, 02:55:45 PM »
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i can't workout because then i'll lose my SSDI check  :d&d:
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #13 on: January 09, 2014, 03:06:40 PM »
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If you're a girl goon, put on a little makeup, not a lot but at least some when you go out. Don't wear t-shirts. Wear good jeans that fit, learn how to walk with your shoulders back, don't wear garrish colour nailpolish (it isn't cute) and fix your eyebrows already. Not pencil thin, but done well. From eyebrows to belly (and legs) there should be no hair. Shave your damn arms, also twat area doesn't need to be completely bald, that's fucking gross and pornstary. Also being into video games doesn't mean boys want to date you, so stop it with the "one of the guys" attitude. If you're a tomboy, fine but dedicate that tomboy effort to physical activity.

But back to makeup, the point of it is to ACCENTUATE YOUR FEATURES. PEOPLE SHOULDN'T BE ABLE TO TELL YOU'RE WEARING MAKEUP. Raccoon eyes is fine for the club but not for any other purpose.

Oh and stop talking shit about your boyfriend or guys who are into you all the time among your girlfriends, because no one wants to hear it and we can see it from a mile away that you just want affirmation that he isn't giving you, or you perceive he isn't giving you.
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #14 on: January 09, 2014, 03:09:22 PM »
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The trick is to make it to your 30's without deciding you're immune to joy.  Adolescence and the first two thirds of your twenties pretty much blows even for the people who try to have a good time, work towards their goals and not shit all over everyone else.  You make it through ungooned by realizing- sooner rather than later- that everyone is having, or already had, the same hard time and that you'd rather be happy while you struggle on towards stability, instead of internalizing a philosophy where being a miserable shit with an ever growing memorized list of every way the world has obstructed you from finding the happiness that you don't even apparently want is the highest attainable state, since only those evil popular people who mustn't have a single problem comparable to your own or thought in their heads are happy.  You stay that course long enough and, even if your career hasn't fully gelled, by the final third of your 20's you discover that a lot of the shit that you thought was a problem falls away; you want to be happy and make other people happy, you find satisfaction in your career and home life, you want to get married and have kids, etc. 

You work out & try to keep the junk food to a minimum just so your heart doesn't explode in your chest like a cherry bomb before you hit 50, not because it makes you a better person.

EDIT:  Not that wanting to get married or have kids is some sort of requirement.  I was just speaking from personal experience there.
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #15 on: January 09, 2014, 03:16:44 PM »
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #16 on: January 09, 2014, 03:17:43 PM »
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For 90% of you, medication should be a bridge while you learn better coping skills and re-organise your life. 

If you're using therapy to vent about how terrible your life is and not doing the "homework" your therapist has given you, then you're choosing to maintain the status quo.  DO the work instead of deciding in advance that "it won't help". 

The vast majority of the time, the things which have made life overwhelming for you are things and people you've chosen to have in your life - things which you have the power to eliminate from it.  Get rid of the crap and coping with normal "shit happens" events becomes so much easier.

And by the way, shit happens to EVERYONE on a fairly regular basis.  You're not special in that respect.

And don't be a pig.  Even if you have some shitty disease which can only be marginally controlled even when you do everything "right", you'll feel so much better and enjoy life more if you maintain a clean, organised living environment.  Keeping your living space nice means that you don't have to be isolated if you really can't leave the house for a while - that you can ask people for a hand or to come over and keep you company without embarrassment.

Also, don't whine about how your disabilities stop you from doing shit if you're not accessing programmes available to help you do shit.  There's a ton of stuff available to help people with medical/mental health issues maximise their ability and absolutely no shame attached to using it to help you be a more engaged, productive member of society.
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #17 on: January 09, 2014, 03:29:50 PM »
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(and Aran)

:???: I've been almost continuously employed since I was a teenager, two jobs at once as necessary, a homeowner for going on four years, I got married in September, I like to work on cars, ride my motorcycle way too fast, and volunteer in local community projects in the summer (They don't do much here in the community in the winter, being in the northeast), I play the alto sax and piano (poorly on the former, haha. My band director in high school just sighed every time he looked at me.) and don't have things like "social anxiety" or "sadbrains."

I don't know what kind of idea you have of me but other than being overweight and a dork with nerdy hobbies I'm not really who this thread is aimed at. Yeah, I could stand to lose quite a bit of weight, obviously, but I'm working on it. I lost ~30lbs last year, aiming for at least 40 this year.

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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #18 on: January 09, 2014, 04:22:08 PM »
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(and Aran)

:???: I've been almost continuously employed since I was a teenager, two jobs at once as necessary, a homeowner for going on four years, I got married in September, I like to work on cars, ride my motorcycle way too fast, and volunteer in local community projects in the summer (They don't do much here in the community in the winter, being in the northeast), I play the alto sax and piano (poorly on the former, haha. My band director in high school just sighed every time he looked at me.) and don't have things like "social anxiety" or "sadbrains."

I don't know what kind of idea you have of me but other than being overweight and a dork with nerdy hobbies I'm not really who this thread is aimed at. Yeah, I could stand to lose quite a bit of weight, obviously, but I'm working on it. I lost ~30lbs last year, aiming for at least 40 this year.

And every straight guy on SS wants to bang your wife, who is hot and lets you play with legos and sometimes plays legos with you. This doesn't change the fact you are a fatty mcfatterson, and should kill yourself so I can grief fuck your wife after the funeral as to stop giving goons hope that they can also land an attractive woman who isn't turned off by their goonery. Also so I can grief-fuck your wife after the funeral.
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #19 on: January 09, 2014, 04:51:12 PM »
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #20 on: January 09, 2014, 05:00:44 PM »
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Problem: Being a goon, fat, lonely, depressed, anxious, unmotivated, unemployed amongst a long list of disorders.
Solution: Cis Scum's 5 Step Plan To Growing the Fuck Up


At a New Year's Eve party, I ended up spending a considerable amount of time drinking with this mid-20s guy, who complained all of his problems. Most of them were self-inflicted, easily solvable and the product of not growing up. A lot of his problems were similar to a lot of E/N and general threads about fatherhood/depression/relationships/etc.... I told him he needed to grow the fuck up and, once he does, his life will stop to suck so much. 90% of the problems you all suffer from could be solved by making just day to day changes. No more “soda addictions” and getting panic attacks reading twitter or lonely friday nights.

The solution is right in your face: You need to grow the fuck up and start acting like an adult. If you look back even a few decades ago, by the time you were in your early 20s you were expected to be married, have a career, probably a couple of children and work toward owning your own house at the minimum. The truth is that there is no reason for you not to be behaving like an adult even if most of the people around you suffer from arrested development and still act like teenagers well into their 20s. It's not an improvement that society tolerates this, it's a sign of shitty parenting from an entire generation who were themselves raised by people who had no idea what to do.

Here's what I told him to do in a convenient 5 step guide to making this the year when you finally grew the fuck up and stopped being such a depressed sad sack:

1. Establish a morning routine.

Humanity craves rituals and repetition, this is hard-wired in us. This is also an extremely important tool when working on yourself. Repeat something long enough, it becomes second nature. Keep that going on long enough, and it just becomes an integral part of you. That's the key to bettering yourself, forcing yourself to go through the motions at first until it becomes automatic and eventually part of your personality.

If you're over the age of 21, you need to act like it and the key to it is to begin as soon as you wake up in the morning. There are a lot of advantages to a productive morning routine: puts you in the right mindset, maximizes your time, makes you more presentable and prevents accidents from not being thoroughly prepared.. It sets up you're day perfectly and gives you great motivation and there are so many studies that show how great an impact it has on those who adhere to one strictly. Having a lazy Sunday should be an occasional thing, not an every morning experience. Being in university is no exception. Every morning routine should be strictly adhered to and include:

20 minutes of working out
Grooming yourself
Dressing properly

You should not just be sitting around, drinking coffee and reading bullshit on your computer until you go 'oh shit I have to leave' and then rush through everything. You should follow up it like it's the fucking army. Wake up, start coffee, use bathroom, get changed and start working out within 20 minutes of waking up. Within an hour you should have showered and be dressed as well. Being an adult means being productive, and if you learn to actually use your time properly in the morning it's going to affect the rest of your day as well.

2. Take care of yourself

The human body is also a finely-tuned machine, and the way you treat it will impact everything in your life. The key to positive mental health is through a healthy body. Being fat is not a good thing, and neither is being a slob. You might not have been graced with the best genetics but you will always feel better about yourself and the world will treat you differently if you put some effort in your presentation.

Physical activity also releases hormones in your body that will help balance your mood, feel relaxed and positive. Being in shape (versus being thin but out of shape) will do wonders for your self-esteem. Not only should you take care of your body but presentation as well. There is no excuse to dress like a slob, even on the weekend. You should make an effort to make sure you always get dressed in the morning, forget about lounging around in boxers on days off.

If you work at a gaming company you shouldn't necessarily show up wearing a three piece suit, but for fuck's sake don't show up wearing jorts and sandals. You're an adult, a "relaxed' dress code doesn't mean you should dress like a fat teenager at science camp.  You're probably unable to buy clothes that fit you well on your own but go to some clothing stores (for adults) and get experienced staff to give you a hand. You should be able to find people who are not fucks and want to help you rather than get a commission.


3. Establish sport/physical activities during the week

Yes, separate from the morning workout. Morning workouts are great to make sure you're constantly active every day and making small and consistent gains, but the main workout should be separate physical activities/a sport that take 2-3 hours a week at the very least. Can be lifting, rock climbing, jogging, football; doesn't matter as long as it's physical, frequent and you enjoy it. Sticking with a physical activity where you see concrete results over time, both physical and in terms of the activity itself does tremendous for both physical and mental health.


4. Pick up a new hobby (and stop playing so much video games)

Taking care of yourself when you wake up helps boost self-confidence. So does becoming physically fitter and dressing better. Hobbies (outside of video games and computers) will do the same when they lead to concrete results. The problem with video games is that while it gives you instant gratification since the ratio of effort versus result is pretty low, but it does not give you anything concrete. Whenever someone from SA links to a steam account, you guys generally have an average of 20 hours+ a week of video games. Over a decade, that's more than 10,000 hours. If you had spent that time playing violin (or any other instrument), to paint or any other skill, you would be close to an expert at that point. We're talking about being able to pretty much play anything alongside the best in the world, etc...

What's left after 10,000 hours of video games? Nothing. Some steam cred I guess. It might have been fun, but you've gained zero. It's the human equivalent of that scientific experiment where a lizard is given a choice of food or a button that delivers an electric shock that lights up its pleasure center in the brain. Inevitably, the lizard will choose the fake pleasure over what is necessary for him to function, until he starves to death.

If you spent even half of the time you play video games and started a few hobbies over a decade, you could have ended up being able to:

speak fluent [language]
play [instrument]
know how to [skill]
be a decent player at [sport]

on top of still playing thousands of hours of video games. Wouldn't it be better for you in 10 years to look back at the past decade and have gotten good at someone else than mashing the same buttons and never accomplishing anything? Concrete hobbies will actually give you tremendous benefits in life. Sitting around mashing at buttons is not going to ever matter or help you except kill some time until you die.


5. Keep a schedule and possibly journals

If you're not used to do everything that needs to be done immediately and tend to push off everything, you're going to struggle following a morning if it's not written down. So write down your morning schedule, print it out and make sure everything morning you go through each and every step. Keep it up on a wall or something until you know it back and forth and you've been doing it consistently for months. Shit, if you need to fire up excel, make a chart and tick a box every time you do it in the morning to keep track of everything on a daily and weekly basis etc... It can be pretty motivating and will give you extra motivation not to give up one morning.

If you're fat, you'll be losing weight from the physical activities and morning workouts, but you should still keep a food journal to know exactly just how much you're eating and try to make sure you're eating the right amount of the right things. There are plenty of online places where you can do that and they'll give you precise breakdowns based on age, sex etc...

If you want to go the extra way, keep a small journal with you and every day write down things you want to better off, things you could have done better, things you're happy you're doing so you keep a record of that thing.


That's the thing about growing up and bettering yourself: if you don't work hard at it, you don't keep track of where you are and where you want to go, you won't really get anywhere you want. Stop being affected by life happening around you, sack up and start living life to its fullest instead. In a matter of a year or two you won't even recognize the sad lonely sack you once were. That's my guaranteed to work plan.

:nixon:

A good post and fucking  :facepalm: that people need to be told this shit.

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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #21 on: January 09, 2014, 05:04:42 PM »
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this is a really good thread  :nixon:


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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #22 on: January 09, 2014, 05:06:55 PM »
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #23 on: January 09, 2014, 05:07:54 PM »
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and for those cunts who pull the 'I CANT DO THAT'
Watch this you fucks.
http://vimeo.com/56911192
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Re: Something Sensitive presents: How to Ungoon Yourself, 2014 edition
« Reply #24 on: January 09, 2014, 06:39:53 PM »
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If cis scum's post is too triggering, then just do something different than what you normally do.  Anything.  Take a walk, jerk off with your left hand instead of your right, something.  Most goons are so deep in their ruts that it likely explains the sadbrains, the fibromyalgia, and the need to try to scam SSI for disability payments.  Just do one thing different.