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E/N: I am in therapy. I will have sex someday
« on: September 24, 2012, 09:30:12 PM »
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I don't have a lot of job experience. Like many goons I spent my high school years in front of the pale glow of a monitor, avoiding anything extracurricular, including getting a job, for years.

This continued during my college years, but I substituted the pale glow of my monitor for binge drinking and academics (though I did participate in a few college clubs/organizations). I graduated from a decent school with great grades, better social skills and awesome friends, but virtually no job experience (and a metric fuckton of student loans).

Until this current job I hadn't worked at a single place for more than 2 weeks. I spent months after graduation looking for employment while deferring paying my student loans as much as I could.

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My entire life, I've never gotten much attention. My parents never really interacted me (as in, literally never talked to me) which would be fine but they also didn't let me have any friends. Anytime I left the house or someone came over it would become a huge ordeal which usually ended up with my mom crying about how I was going to run away and leave them. My brother is severely autistic and hates my guts. My dad occasionally says things about being unhappy or wanting to leave, but mostly just sits on his computer all day watching porn. I really didn't have any friends until high school, when I started dating this mega-Christian guy who initially spent the first year or out relationship trying to convert me and feeling incredibly guilty anytime we had sex. While, I've never had any friends, I did fool around with lots of people because it was an easy and quick way to get the attention I craved.

After 3 years of dating this guy, I broke up with him to date this crazy motherfucker for 4 months. While when I was with him he treated me like gold, he also constantly cheated on my with his roommate who he made no effort to hide that he was in love with. I knew about this, but didn't want to be lonely and I was also madly in love with him so I ignored it.

So after we broke up, I found myself with absolutely nobody. I tried making friends, but nothing ever really stuck. I ended up sleeping around so I wouldn’t be lonely (the lowest point of my life). After that, I realized I was better off being alone and spent a year without a single friend (at this point it's been over a year and a half since I've had anything I could remotely call a friend).

This needs to go on the dictionary next to "daddy issues.

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I feel like I have no friends, and for some reason I keep brushing off the three friends that I do have because I'm an asshole. I admit it. Even though they're good people and I'm a social pariah I brush them off because I don't think they're good enough for me. They're not cool enough, even though I'm in no position to judge. I'm not sexually interested in the girl and the two guys aren't cool enough to give me any social capital to hook up with chicks (they might even be goons). I actually wish I could be better friends with them, I think they're cool people, but I don't think they're "worth my time."

And I can't make new friends because I project my own self-hatred onto them and I think that everybody's going to be a horrible asshole to me, so I don't even bother initiating contact in the first place. I keep assuming that everybody is gonna end up putting me down to make themselves feel better like a bunch of insecure, predatory shitlords. I think everybody's going to be shallow and crap on me for not fitting media/cultural ideals to a tee. I know I can talk to people, most people who know me thinks I'm humorous and kind and knowledgeable and weird and fun to be around, but there's a fearful part of me that just sabotages attempts to initiate contact in order to protect me from being belittled by the inevitable pricks. I distance myself from people because I feel like they wouldn't give a fuck if I blew my brains out so fuck them.

I'm also being controlled by a horribly insecure part that is completely obsessed about getting laid. I really wish I was stronger than that, but I admit it. I don't respect myself because I don't "fuck tons of bitches." I don't feel like bothering to make friends with women who I'm not sexually interested in, and I don't feel like making friends with guys who won't help me meet hot women.

The saddest part is that I'm no ladies man. I haven't even kissed a girl before. I'm a 20 year old virgin who carries this "burden" that I can't stop obsessing about.

What can I say about this? Complaining about his friends having a lack of "social capital" is one.
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Re: Random E/N Shit
« Reply #1 on: September 24, 2012, 09:50:59 PM »
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I'm also being controlled by a horribly insecure part that is completely obsessed about getting laid. I really wish I was stronger than that, but I admit it. I don't respect myself because I don't "fuck tons of bitches." I don't feel like bothering to make friends with women who I'm not sexually interested in, and I don't feel like making friends with guys who won't help me meet hot women.

The saddest part is that I'm no ladies man. I haven't even kissed a girl before. I'm a 20 year old virgin who carries this "burden" that I can't stop obsessing about.



My cisprivledged hetronormative sex drive. My eternal shame.  :myecred:


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« Reply #2 on: September 26, 2012, 12:02:26 AM »
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Sounds like they all need to visit freewebcams.com

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« Reply #3 on: September 26, 2012, 08:02:03 PM »
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Help! I'm afraid people will find something bad about me on facebook even though I'm boring and I have no friends:

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I have problems with Facebook. Big problems. I'm genuinely uneasy with the idea that in order to be a non-invisible member of modern society these days you have to have a giant online log of you and your friends that is inextricably coupled with your activity, preferences, pictures of you with meticulously tagged pictures, etc. The idea that society is so happy to embrace this, and that anyone who doesn't have one is quickly being labelled a social outcast of some sort freaks me out. I realize that I can set security preferences on it and don't have to use it for anything beyond networking, but I'm sure other people would be more than happy to fill in my activities for me (via image tagging, etc), and the site makes it very easy for this to be done.

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« Reply #4 on: September 26, 2012, 08:33:19 PM »
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Help! I'm afraid people will find something bad about me on facebook even though I'm boring and I have no friends:

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I have problems with Facebook. Big problems. I'm genuinely uneasy with the idea that in order to be a non-invisible member of modern society these days you have to have a giant online log of you and your friends that is inextricably coupled with your activity, preferences, pictures of you with meticulously tagged pictures, etc. The idea that society is so happy to embrace this, and that anyone who doesn't have one is quickly being labelled a social outcast of some sort freaks me out. I realize that I can set security preferences on it and don't have to use it for anything beyond networking, but I'm sure other people would be more than happy to fill in my activities for me (via image tagging, etc), and the site makes it very easy for this to be done.

I don't entirely disagree with this. I didn't get a Facebook page till last year, and that was only because I had to for work.
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« Reply #5 on: September 26, 2012, 10:12:17 PM »
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Nobody gives a shit if you don't have a facebook, it's become irrelevant since it's only used for keeping in touch with old friends you've moved away from or seeing how shitty things are for people that you went to high school with.

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« Reply #6 on: September 28, 2012, 01:35:23 AM »
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When did the ancient wisdom of 'don't expect shit from bitches' stop being passed on?  :geithner:

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« Reply #7 on: October 01, 2012, 08:18:36 AM »
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So, I'm two weeks into college, living at the dorms, and I have yet to make any friends. In fact, I've been trying to get along with my floor-mates, but I'm struggling. I have OCD and social anxiety, and I'm taking medication (zoloft, 25mg) to deal with both. However, I lowered my medication due to its sexual side effects (couldn't get it up with a girl.) And now I'm wondering if that was the wrong decision.

You see, if I am in big groups, or I approach multiple people I do not know, I get anxious as all hell. I don't get the thoughts like "These people think I'm a loser" or "I look weird", I just get the symptons. I.e, sweating, stuttering, a sort of tightness in the chest you get when you're nervous.

I'm okay with approaching people one on one, or being in groups of my friends, but it's groups of unfamiliar people I have trouble with. For instance, large groups of party girls sort of wander down my halls. The last time this happened, when my room mate went to talk to them, I hid. I literally fucking HID from GIRLS DESPERATE TO TALK TO GUYS. That is so not right.

I feel like if I went to a party, I'd be honestly so nervous I'm not sure if I could talk to people normally. So, SA, any suggestions for someone who's socially anxious as hell at college?

Oh, another issue is that I think my room mate is the same as me - i.e, he doesn't really go out or go to any parties. So I can't go to him and be like "let's go a party, bro!"


EDIT: I consider myself cured of my OCD, the Zoloft was incredibly effective at getting rid of those symptoms. Just not the social anxiety ones.

EDIT2: I have made friends, and I'm getting along with everyone on my floor. Thanks for the advice.

someone needs to make a graph that shows the reported cases of social anxiety overlapped with personal computer use in the home vs time.

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Re: Random E/N Shit
« Reply #8 on: October 01, 2012, 08:45:25 AM »
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I have been unable to attend all the last few parties I've been invited to (last time was last Saturday). I subconsciously sabotage my preparations, I delay going as much as possible, and if I try to fight it, I get a mounting feeling of terror, until I'm forced to stay home (or even go back if I'm already halfway there). Delaying tactics have included lying down staring at the ceiling for hours

Going with friends doesn't help; it is, in fact, a good way to lose friends. No kind of reaction from the people already at the party does shit, whether flattery, indifference, hostility or friendship-ending threats (and it has ended friendships). Being tricked into going didn't work, in fact I got called an ungrateful asshole (yep, friend lost)

I experimented with Xanax, and the best result so far has been sleeping through the whole thing and waking up having forgotten the party and most of the previous day (not exaggerating, I have photos of that day I don't remember taking)

It's slowly getting worse and it's creeping into other situations. It has completely ruined my travels to foreign cities, I know I've been to Madrid and Paris only because I compulsively documented those trips with hundreds of photos (photo documentation is essential to building a normal image of me to the friends I haven't lost yet, the friends I may make, and my future self). How about that time I went to )'( Burning Man )'(? how about we never talk about it, I mean. Another thing this is gradually barring me from is participating in arts/culture workshops. I can't explain the party/foreign city/workshop connection, but I know there's one

What I took away from this is that I'm unworthy of the things I like and objectively inferior to a whole lot of people

I'm 31, male1, living in Italy. I take Citalopram

I went to therapy specifically to deal with this issue. Therapy has accomplished jack shit

1. Actually MtF trans, but this phobia makes me feel unworthy of identifying as a woman, if that makes sense to you (it makes sense to me)

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« Reply #9 on: October 01, 2012, 01:30:46 PM »
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« Reply #10 on: October 01, 2012, 01:41:26 PM »
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So I've been dating a girl for almost three years now and I keep running into an issue where I cannot find a solution so I'm asking goons for an outside perspective:

My girlfriend has depression and anxiety.  When I first met her, I just thought she was really shy and so I went really slowly and tried to be as understanding and charming as I could be.  Over time I thought I was winning her over and she started to share some of her background (the mental issues).  Then I had to take a job quite a distance away and so for the past 2 years it's been a LDR where we only see each other about 2-3 times a year in person.  The rest of the time we talking online or on skype.

I've been slowly trying to get her to open up more on an emotional, intimate, and relationship level while also trying to deal with the distance.  For a while there I thought things were progressing (slowly) until this summer when I spent three weeks with her.  We got into some arguments and I started to get frustrated that she continues to be pretty distant a lot of the time.  Later on, she told me about some abuse that happened in her past and why she gets so reluctant to work on these things (intimacy in particular).  So for a while I've been trying to help her work on it by flirting and a host of other things.

Now up until this point I've been suppressing my own needs, desires, and concerns in the hopes that she would work it out and things would get better because half the time I want to walk away from this relationship and half the time I thinking marriage.  However, I know these issues are dealbreakers for me if she can't work past it and actually step up as an equal partner in this relationship instead of me taking the lead all the time.  Much of the time I feel like I'm making small talk to a stranger as opposed to someone who I've been dating for three years.

Now the part I could use some perspective for...I've been trying to bring this up to her for over a month now however each time something similar happens.  Either she signs on so late that we don't really talk or when we do she shuts down crying, we stop talking, and she doesn't bring it up again later on.  This topic is weighing on me a lot and has drastically reduced my eagerness to want to bring anything up because then I end up feeling guilty for having feelings that are not being addressed and desires that are sitting by the wayside waiting for things to work out.  I've pretty much given up on trying to start conversations in the past two weeks because I'm tired of carrying the majority of the relationship all the time and never being cared for.  I know she loves me but at the same time it rings hollow because of what I keep seeing happening.  For the longest time, I kept trying to keep in mind the depression/anxiety but I'm getting to the point where I don't want a project for a relationship.

I'm not the kind of person to give up easy (I teach low income kids so I'm used to being persistent) however between stresses of job, grad school, living in a place I hate, and this relationship...I'm short on ideas on what to do.  I care about her and I wish things were better but what do I do if that same relationship isn't fulfilling?


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« Reply #11 on: October 01, 2012, 01:47:20 PM »
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I know exactly why I'm posting this, even though I'm not fully certain what I'm going to say. I'm slowly losing a focus.

E/N: I've been unemployed since walking out on a sweet K-mart job from frustration over a year ago, and have been living above my means (no debt) off a bunch of well-timed windfalls.

I was supposed to be a businessman, but I turned into something else. A junkie for other people, so overbearing that only more intense individuals can tolerate it. I wish the friendships had gone somewhere, but they didn't. I successfully shunned all but a few friends and collapsed into my own ego, bringing back my imagination and creativity at the expense of my connectedness. I hardly talk to people because I'm always thinking about math to the point where I'll tangent into dork-speak of the highest caliber.

I used to have a God, but I measured Him against the universe, and he didn't fit. This made me change how I thought about other people. It calmed me down. It made me fit them better, because they didn't have a name for me, meaning I'm always in their group.

I'm a diagnosed bipolar II spectrum (very low). I'm generally eventual but my mind can tolerate some very divergent thoughts. I blame this disorder, and the diagnosis for my inability to hold a job for more than 6 months. I'm too old to be perfectly directionless.

I don't even know if I need help or sleep.

Really, under bipolar II spectrum (very low) more like Bipolar N.O.S. (mild) his GAF is in the normal scale, but really, don't want to work a clerk job because their has to be something better out there for someone who knows his greatness you see *farts*
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« Reply #12 on: October 01, 2012, 01:53:09 PM »
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I live in Saskatchewan, Canada. I have a good job with one of if not Canada's largest television broadcasting stations. Despite all of this, I don't like living here. I want to move to Vancouver. I've shot off resume after resume with not even a single phone call back. Hell, I've sent out over 40 resumes all over Canada without a single call back despite being perfectly qualified for the positions I have been applying for. I am starting to think that they see me outside of the province and immediately dismiss my application. I feel like my best shot at anything is to literally quit my job here and move over there and look for employment. How silly of an idea is this? The only thing I somewhat have lined up is a guy I talked to over the phone (I literally resorted to cold-calling) and he welcomed the idea to come work with him with a new business angle he is starting with his business. You see, I own a small business outside of my full-time job shooting video for real estate and it's something he is trying to pursue himself inside of his production company. He can't guarantee me any work or income off the bat as he is just testing the waters with this idea, but I guess it's SOMETHING.

I am well aware of the cost of living in Vancouver. Saskatchewan has been booming astronomically in the last few years and the cost of living is really not far off from there. Sask is a dingy little shithole and I WANT OUT. So, how crazy is my idea to just pack my shit and leave? I could probably keep myself afloat for half a year or so with the money I will possess.

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No money saved up, but... I know two people who moved there that gave up their vehicles because they never needed them (great public transportation). I could sell my vehicle and pocket at least a few thousand. My second option and one I really don't want to do unless I HAVE TO, is to pull out my RRSP's (I think this is the equivalent to America's 401k)? At my current job, it's nearly impossible to save. Despite it being a solid/reputable job, my income is shit.

I'm not sure I understand.
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« Reply #13 on: October 01, 2012, 06:59:17 PM »
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I live in Saskatchewan, Canada. I have a good job with one of if not Canada's largest television broadcasting stations. Despite all of this, I don't like living here. I want to move to Vancouver. I've shot off resume after resume with not even a single phone call back. Hell, I've sent out over 40 resumes all over Canada without a single call back despite being perfectly qualified for the positions I have been applying for. I am starting to think that they see me outside of the province and immediately dismiss my application. I feel like my best shot at anything is to literally quit my job here and move over there and look for employment. How silly of an idea is this? The only thing I somewhat have lined up is a guy I talked to over the phone (I literally resorted to cold-calling) and he welcomed the idea to come work with him with a new business angle he is starting with his business. You see, I own a small business outside of my full-time job shooting video for real estate and it's something he is trying to pursue himself inside of his production company. He can't guarantee me any work or income off the bat as he is just testing the waters with this idea, but I guess it's SOMETHING.

I am well aware of the cost of living in Vancouver. Saskatchewan has been booming astronomically in the last few years and the cost of living is really not far off from there. Sask is a dingy little shithole and I WANT OUT. So, how crazy is my idea to just pack my shit and leave? I could probably keep myself afloat for half a year or so with the money I will possess.

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No money saved up, but... I know two people who moved there that gave up their vehicles because they never needed them (great public transportation). I could sell my vehicle and pocket at least a few thousand. My second option and one I really don't want to do unless I HAVE TO, is to pull out my RRSP's (I think this is the equivalent to America's 401k)? At my current job, it's nearly impossible to save. Despite it being a solid/reputable job, my income is shit.

I'm not sure I understand.

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Despite the horrible economy and high unemployment, particularly for people under 30 and over 50, I am doing pretty damn good for someone my age. I have a solid job where I make a lot of money and am starting a great career. I would like to do something to throw that all away and be on a trajectory to be living with my parents by the time I'm 30. How can I best do that?

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« Reply #14 on: October 07, 2012, 04:09:55 AM »
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So, I'm thinking of catching the bus. I just ... don't want to live anymore. I've been thinking of doing this for a while, but now it seems more real to me than it ever has before. I just can't do it anymore. Every year I fuck myself up, bringing myself to rock bottom, and every year I have to build myself back up again. I've been doing this since I can remember. And, I just don't want to do it anymore.

I have no future. I don't really like school, and I have no interest in my major (psychology). I just chose it because the things I actually have a passion for seemed like an even bigger dead end than my current path. I like movies, and comics, and video games, and books. I like stories. I like art. But I felt that majoring in film or photography would be a waste of money and time. And cool STEM majors are off-limits because I'm terrible at math (and I do mean terrible.

I've never been in a relationship with a woman, and I this point I doubt I ever will, because quite frankly, I don't feel love for anyone, and I don't feel the love I know others feel for me. I feel broken because of this. I also lack critical empathy skills. In fact, I've always sort of liked it when bad things have happened to other people. How fucked up is that? I'm also incredibly quick to anger. I've gotten into so many fights with my parents because I just lose my fucking temper at the slightest provocation. They don't deserve that, and they never have. I've tried to change. I've tried to be a compassionate person. I really have. I've tried to relate to other people; I've tried to feel the pain they feel, the joy they've felt. I've tried to feel happy for my friends and family when they've succeeded. But it just doesn't work. People I know are and at times have been in pain, and I don't and didn't feel anything. I can't. I just can't. I hear about something bad happening to somebody else in the news, and I feel nothing. If somebody asks me, I feign horror, or disgust, or sadness. But it's just an act.

I don't see any solutions anymore. The medication doesn't work. Talking doesn't work. I tried therapy. I've been exercising since I was 14, and nothing's changed. Some might say that I should try helping others. That I should volunteer at a soup kitchen or something, but I have no desire to help others, because I don't feel anything for them. I probably deserve to die.

I don't know why I'm this way. I wasn't abused or molested. I've never really wanted for anything. I do have a part-time job, but I actually fucking hate it. I tried drugs and alcohol, but they just make me feel even worse. All it does is exacerbate my problems, as when I'm there all I can do is really is think the same fucked-up thoughts. It's boring, is what I'm saying.

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« Reply #15 on: October 07, 2012, 04:34:35 AM »
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Pity farming. If he really felt like that he would just do it and not do the big cry for help thing.

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« Reply #16 on: October 07, 2012, 02:11:28 PM »
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I hate when well-meaning but useless people want to kill themselves. Hopefully the little whiner finds a hobby at least.
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« Reply #17 on: October 07, 2012, 11:21:05 PM »
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It has become a cliche at this point, but if you were really going to kill yourself, you wouldn't write an essay-long post about it on the Internet. You just go and fucking do it like that one goon's wife did. At most there will be a short note or a private letter to specific persons, not a public manifesto about being so bored you want to die.

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Re: Random E/N Shit
« Reply #18 on: October 08, 2012, 11:38:38 AM »
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I have no interest in my major (psychology). I just chose it because the things I actually have a passion for seemed like an even bigger dead end than my current path.

I also lack critical empathy skills. In fact, I've always sort of liked it when bad things have happened to other people. How fucked up is that? I'm also incredibly quick to anger.

I've tried to relate to other people; I've tried to feel the pain they feel, the joy they've felt. I've tried to feel happy for my friends and family when they've succeeded. But it just doesn't work. People I know are and at times have been in pain, and I don't and didn't feel anything. I can't. I just can't. I hear about something bad happening to somebody else in the news, and I feel nothing. If somebody asks me, I feign horror, or disgust, or sadness. But it's just an act.

Uh oh

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I can never get a job in a field I like (being a manchild), so it would be a waste of time to go to school for it.  Therefore I chose psychology to help others by being caring and compassiona-... Oh wait...
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Re: Random E/N Shit
« Reply #19 on: October 08, 2012, 11:44:46 AM »
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Who is that?
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Re: Random E/N Shit
« Reply #20 on: October 08, 2012, 05:32:34 PM »
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Sup dudes and dudettes, I'm 25 and I've never had a girlfriend or been kissed, let alone had sex. I don't really know what happened; when I was little I was talkative and outgoing enough, but as I got into middle school and high school I became more withdrawn. I guess its because puberty hit me kinda hard; I was normal looking when I was little but during my teen years I was fat and ugly, plus had glasses. On top of that, I lived in a different neighborhood from most everyone else, so I couldn't hang out with other kids after school or really hook up with them in any way. By the time I got a driver's license (senior year) I was already in the habit of not doing jack shit after school except surfing the Internet.

And as for college, well, I haven't really been to college yet. For a couple of years after high school I just went to some technical school, and after that I started going to a community college. I'm going to transfer to a university this year but my point is that I've never had the whole dorm-living college experience. So ever since high school, there's been no opportunities to really mingle with other people. So the years went by and suddenly I'm a 25 year old virgin.

So how do I get out of this rut? I get that I need to get out and mingle, but how do I start a conversation if I don't really have a whole lot to talk about? It's not that I'm boring; I have genuine interests and passions (and no, they aren't videogames and anime), but they don't seem to be the kind of things you can really break the ice with. It seems weird to say "You know, tuataras aren't really lizards, they're sphenodonts" to a cute chick in a nightclub.

ohhhhhh my god.

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Re: Random E/N Shit
« Reply #21 on: October 08, 2012, 07:21:05 PM »
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It's not that I'm boring; I have genuine interests and passions (and no, they aren't videogames and anime), but they don't seem to be the kind of things you can really break the ice with. It seems weird to say "You know, tuataras aren't really lizards, they're sphenodonts" to a cute chick in a nightclub.

lol, maybe videogames and anime would be an improvement there

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Re: Random E/N Shit
« Reply #22 on: October 08, 2012, 07:57:13 PM »
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Why not hang around chicks who like lizards, but don't start out by correcting them.

Am I a wizard?
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Re: Random E/N Shit
« Reply #23 on: October 08, 2012, 08:28:53 PM »
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Well I guess the goon propensity to show off how smart they are instead of having a normal conversation is a greater barrier than dorky interests.

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Re: Random E/N Shit
« Reply #24 on: October 08, 2012, 10:53:55 PM »
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I guess. I mean, there must be some chick somewhere who would apreciate his lizard expertise, but he is too damaged mentally and emotionally to figure out how. One thing I have learned is how to use anything at your disposal. I almost wish I could mentor this kid just to prove that anyone can be taught to be successful with the opposite sex.

But who am I kidding? What 25 year old has never kissed a girl?!? Even his parents must be embarrassed.
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